Train up a child…
What Can A Dad Do?
Dad is so very important! He sets the tone of the family and should be the head of the house. He is the leader. It is his responsibility to see that the family is cared for physically, mentally, socially and spiritually. It is a daunting task. It is understandable that many times a husband and father may feel overwhelmed and confused by the expectations placed upon him.
There are some definite things a dad may do and, having done those things, have a sense of confidence that he has made a good effort. I would like to suggest a few things for dads to consider.
- Tell your wife and children each day that you love them. Don’t assume that they know it. They need to be told.
- Spend time with your wife and children. No amount of money or things can substitute for time spent bonding with the family.
- Admit it when you make a mistake. Be patient and understanding when other family members make mistakes.
- Learn to turn off or record your TV program when the family needs you. There is no program on TV as important as your family.
- Lend a hand with chores around the house such as helping to clear the table, picking up things, putting things away, and keeping things neat and clean. It is not fair that others should have to clean up after you and you are setting an example for the children.
- When you are away from home, phone often to check on the welfare of the family.
- Have reasonable expectations. Do not expect children to be just like you. They may have inherited other traits, likes, and dislikes.
- Play with your children.
- Have at least a weekly time together with Bible reading and discussion. A daily time is even better.
- Allow children to make suggestions and consider them. Give explanations as to reasoning in decision making when possible.
- Learn to fix small things around the house and have your children help you so that they may learn how to do those things.
- Use good manners to set a good example. Say, “Excuse me”, “thank you”, “please”, and “I’m sorry” when appropriate.
- Give hugs often.
- Praise the wife and children at every opportunity.
Dad should be earth’s picture of our heavenly Father. Children who grow up with loving fathers seldom crave love out of the home. Mom is to be a helper to Dad as he directs the home. When we each play our appropriate roles, life is much more pleasant and everything seems to go more smoothly.
Happy Father’s Day to our important dads!